I am so grateful for this podcast!! Really helps me in this difficult process of coparenting . So much of my anxiety and concerns have been addressed in a beautiful way in this podcast. I really found it life changing for me and my son.

I regret listening to the early episodes of this show. Maybe they were leaning more towards a male audience at the beginning. One of the hosts seems very emotional about his divorce and it makes me not trust the things he says about his former partner. Also, the personality disorder episode got so many things wrong. Avoidants are not inherently narcissists. Crazy things for a “professional” to say. They also entirely left out fearful avoidant attachment style. I sincerely hope the show gets better as it goes on, cause the early episodes are NOT IT.

This podcast has excellent information about how to move forward with your child’s best interest at the forefront. It offers wise, nuanced and also practical advice and insights. THANK YOU, podcast creators. (I just made a donation to also express my gratitude.)

Please Brook, for the love of god…do not do another episode with Ross Rosenberg. I don’t think I have to state the MANY reasons why…I couldn’t even get through the entire duration of the episode. I made it to 25 minutes and those 25 minutes were excruciating. Brook handled his severe interruptions and massive ego, patiently with grace and professionalism. I cannot say enough about this show and Brook Olsen. He has saved my sanity. I have no complaints about this show. I listen weekly, faithfully. But last week was HORRIBLE only due to ROSS ROSENBURG. He needs to be banned.

with having a very controlling toxic ex that opposes everything I suggest. I say black, he says white. We’re going through a very high conflict custody battle right now and this podcast has taught me so much and given me the guidance to navigate through these tough waters of “co-parenting”. I’ve learned that I cannot change his toxic ways/perception of me. But I can change how I react and choose to disengage and NOT take the bait. And to keep my focus on my child’s feelings and what is going to be in her best interest. Thank you guys for It’s helped immensely.

While a personal anecdote can be helpful in some instances, they frequently make seemingly unfair statements about their exes (“narcissist” etc) that make me uncomfortable to hear. It feels petty and unfair considering that their ex isn’t there to defend herself. It makes me wonder if I can trust their perspective.

I love that there is a lot of focus on how to be a better parent rather than focus on the other party. More how to manage and protect the children rather than documenting and how to win against the other party. Great job on self awareness. Thank you!

Helpful so far. Great concepts to consider. I hope there are more female voices to come. In the beginning it feels very male centered when discussing his “psycho ex”, a term used against women historically to invalidate our feelings. Would also love discussion around the situations that require engagement and advocacy for the children (abuse, neglect, and the gray areas like keeping kids up late all the time or unsafe/poor living conditions) and how to handle them.

A lot of the advice is very helpful and validating, but how is it ok for the featured professional interviewing his client to disclose things the client’s ex wife did or said in their couples meetings?? Made me very uncomfortable.

I’m sure you meant for the last guest to be an encouragement but I feel like just the opposite happened. This guy actually said his daughter was the reason for his wife getting fired…then he goes on to say she was telling him abt his daughter and he took up for her and said he KNOWS his daughter wouldn’t have anything to do with it. Sounds like he’s in complete denial and his 2nd wife dodged a huge bullet. Good for her for leaving!! His daughter pitched a fit and the ex tormented the new wife and he seems completely ok just bc he has his daughter back. He didn’t set boundaries. He played into her and she was happy again. Let him have his daughter and then when he’s alone he’ll look back with regret. Bc his daughter will be living her own life. Then she’ll get mad as an adult and pitch a fit. Ladies beware!!!

On one hand, I appreciate how the host is willing to share about his life. However, I felt increasingly uncomfortable as he continued to insert little comments and stories that basically said: “Hey, I’m a nice guy, my wife is crazy and totally out to get me, she is immature for focusing on how much she hates me, and I’m suffering unjustly right now.” And it’s like—uhhh I don’t know you, I don’t know your wife, and I have no reason in the world to think that anything your wife has done is irrational or unreasonable. The more you try to get me on your side, the more I wonder why you’re on this podcast. It’s disrespectful to her to be dropping hints and talking about her on the show in such a negative way. The episode was supposed to be about parallel parenting, but the host kept inserting that court is just a place where your ex lies and exaggerates about you, assisted by their lying attorney, and just because you raised your voice in court it’s said that you’re emotionally abusive, and she filed 28 pages of complaints about him (“complaint” trivializing her concerns rather conveniently) that he summarizes as, “I would do things differently than you,” and how unjust it is to criticize how another parent handled things in their house. He’s basically saying, “See how crazy my wife is and how over the top she is in hating me? I’m a total victim here.” Um, if your wife is claiming you are abusive (which sharing hints that she is unstable and examples of people like a mediator who dismissed her anger as off topic and shut her down—sharing these things is kind of exactly what an abusive man would do because it is DISRESPECTFUL and is asking listeners with little context to sympathize with him against his ex), why should I not believe her? Just because you sound generally likable and happen to be hosting this show? Brook isn’t your personal therapist. Just because he’s doing this show with you does not lend you ANY credibility. You should not be using this platform to make your ex look bad. Period. This is your children’s mother, and criticizing her undermines the entire message of coparenting. Signs of an abusive man: he speaks disrespectfully about his partner or ex(es). He does not take personal responsibility, though he may pretend to briefly in order to appear more just when fully blaming his partner/ex. Abusive men are often very charming and enjoy making their partner/ex look crazy and unstable in comparison. They have fewer outbursts in court because the one who has been traumatized and deeply wounded is the abused partner/ex; the abuser has been getting their way the entire relationship by getting to treat their partner poorly whenever they felt like it. So of course they’re able to be calm and reasonable in court. Abusive men also triangulate—they bring in other people to validate and support them to increase pressure on partner/ex and assist in gas lighting. Since the host has hinted at his ex being unstable, has basically said that her complaints are exaggerated and unreasonable (how convenient that he has taken no responsibility and has decided all of her complaints are unreasonable and invalid), has recounted incidents where his wife seemed over the top and was shut down by a neutral person, and has admitted to being accused of emotional abuse—the case is not looking good for the host. The host should NOT be sharing personal examples of high conflict coparenting, especially when he is still clearly upset with and angry at his ex. He is not in the emotional position to be helpful to the audience because he’s caught up in his personal agenda. Brook should be the one sharing examples of high conflict coparenting as an unbiased educator with no personal stake in making anyone look bad. It was probably a mistake to go to the beginning of the show. Maybe in later episodes, the host has stopped using the episodes as personal therapy time to complain about his ex. I feel very distrustful of the host now, however. He could just be caught up in the difficult emotions of a contentious divorce—or his wife is completely right about him. Both ways, he shouldn’t have been given free reign and given the false credibility of appearing alongside a professional.

This podcast (and also Brook’s book) have been very useful tools for me navigating a high conflict co parenting dynamic. The perspectives provided by his varying guests are also very helpful.

This show has been incredibly insightful and helpful to me while navigating my High Conflict Divorce as well as just parenting with a high conflict coparent. It is so refreshing to be able to hear other peoples stories of similar situations that I deal with regularly that other people in my life don’t understand because they don’t know what it’s like and I am so grateful for the advice and the learning that Brook provides in the show. I even connected with Michelle, a ghost writer whom I heard about on this show which has played a huge part in my court case. Thank you!

Incredibly helpful podcast for me as I navigate a conflicted divorce with three children. Invaluable information. Big thanks

I am the significant other of a targeted parent that is just starting this process of navigating a high conflict divorce and I cannot say enough good things about the work these men are doing! I am so glad we have found them and this podcast early on in this process and I have found a renewed hope of the possibility of peacefulness and normalcy in my boyfriend and I’s relationship. We are so looking forward to taking Brook’s class to learn and grow together and most importantly for him to learn how to have the most healthy fullest enriching relationship with his two girls in this ugly, scary high conflict divorce process.

I was unsure about listening to two men talk about this topic, honestly. But wow. Brook GETS IT. It feels like he understands my situation like no one else (including my own therapist) understands. I’ve listened to the Disengage episode so many times. Thank you guys. Changed my life!

I love this podcast, the guys are brilliant and full of knowledge on the matter. I’ve listened to every podcast, some twice.

I absolutely LOVE these! They’re keeping me sane and allowing me know, that I’m NOT the crazy one! I would absolutely LOVE to connect with y’all! I would love to have you interview me and use me on one of your sessions! Is there a way I can contact you, via email, or some other way? Thanks!

I listen to these episodes non stop, right now during my high conflict divorce/ parenting. I feel like I am getting the best therapy just by listening over and over! I can’t afford an attorney so this feels like the next best thing for ME. Thank you so very much!! 🙏🏼

I’m going through a divorce and we are early in the co-parenting process. I love the tone of this podcast- it’s very relatable and light, but at the same time it’s holistic, practical, and such a comfort. It’s easy to feel alone in this process (and in a global pandemic lockdown!), but I feel like I am in a conversation with people who really get what I’m going through. I’m also happy to get male perspectives as most divorce podcasts I listen to are primarily by and for women. This is a new perspective, smart and engaging and I’m going to go through the back log now! Great work.

I absolutely love this podcast. It has given me a sense of peace and ability to know I don’t always have to engage/respond/act when an ex tries to reel you in. But what about other circumstances where there is no divorce? What about two people who have a child but have never been married? Or in my case, the father moved 1900 miles away, didn’t physically meet our son until he was 3 and has only had contact via video chats. Yet feels entitled to the full benefit of being called a parent when his involvement is minimal. Just another large demographic I feel should be brought up in upcoming episodes in the future. Thanks for all your hard work!

Thanks to Brook & Charlie for this support arena that is much needed in high-conflict custody issues. Bravo! I will be sharing this podcast (& Brook’s book 👍 - btw this book was an eye opener + tools like OFW to help manage the chaos & give you some much needed disengagement) on my social media outlets to help more friends and family across the country! 🙏 remember You don’t have to be in this high-conflict alone! Hugs! 🙏

I have only listened to the first episode so far, but after 5 years+ of high conflict with my ex I can tell you this podcast’s advice is spot on. Another excellent resource in dealing with the personality disordered people in your life is ChumpLady (although her main focus is betrayal within a relationship). When this podcast says “disengage, disengage, disengage” it is the same concept as ChumpLady’s “gray rock”. BE the gray rock around your ex.

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You guys are a lifesaver!! I’m starting to regain my sanity. There is nothing like this out there. I have tried almost everything in order to minimize conflict and work on myself in order to stay sane for my children, wife and myself. This is all counterintuitive but it is possible to change your mind and it works! I have listened to every podcast several times I can’t get enough. With Brooks knowledge, expertise and experience and Charlie’s great personal insight and experience it really makes for a all star team. I cannot thank you guys enough keep it up you are saving lives, and the future of many children.

Excellent content for moving forward positively for the sake of KIDS and for the parents as well. This topic is truly silent in my opinion and thank you for bringing this to light.

This is the very best resource out there for parents dealing with a high conflict ex. Thank you Charlie and Brook for hosting this amazing podcast. I have shared it with many other friends in Hong Kong dealing with the nightmare of a cluster-B co-parenting or parallel parenting dynamic. Keep up the excellent work guys!

The podcast is helpful, and going a step further and doing the class is really beneficial as well. Brook has great feedback and advice.

The guys know their stuff and have a good, patient method too.